Can You Sue for Emotional Distress?
Often, yes, but the rules depend on the state. Many states recognize a claim for intentional infliction of emotional distress, which generally requires extreme and outrageous conduct and severe distress; for example, Connecticut's jury instructions say insults, bad manners, or hurt feelings are not enough. Claims for negligently caused emotional distress are usually narrower, and some states limit bystander claims to close relatives who saw a death or serious injury. Emotional distress can also be part of the damages in an ordinary injury case. Deadlines come from each state's personal-injury statute of limitations; check your state's limit.
What the law says
- For example, in Connecticut, intentional infliction of emotional distress has four elements: the defendant intended to inflict emotional distress or knew or should have known it was the likely result; the conduct was extreme and outrageous; the conduct caused the plaintiff's emotional distress; and the distress was severe. Connecticut Civil Jury Instructions 3.12-1, Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress (revised to March 24, 2025)
- In Connecticut, "extreme and outrageous" means conduct that exceeded all bounds usually tolerated by decent society; conduct that is merely insulting, shows bad manners, or hurts feelings is not enough, and a wrongful motive alone does not meet the standard because the act itself must be outrageous. Connecticut Civil Jury Instructions 3.12-1, Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress (revised to March 24, 2025)
- In Connecticut, distress is "severe" when it is so severe that no reasonable person could be expected to endure it; juries may consider its intensity and duration and whether the plaintiff sought medical or psychological treatment. Connecticut Civil Jury Instructions 3.12-1, Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress (revised to March 24, 2025)
- The Connecticut instructions' notes say whether conduct is extreme and outrageous, and whether distress is severe enough, are first questions for the court; they go to the jury only where reasonable minds could differ. Connecticut Civil Jury Instructions 3.12-1, Notes (revised to March 24, 2025)
- In Connecticut, negligent infliction of emotional distress requires that the defendant should have realized its conduct involved an unreasonable risk of causing emotional distress that might result in illness or bodily injury, that the conduct caused the plaintiff's distress, and that the distress was of a kind that might result in illness or bodily harm. Intent to harm is not required. Connecticut Civil Jury Instructions 3.12-2, Negligent Infliction of Emotional Distress (revised to January 1, 2008)
- The Connecticut instructions' notes say intentional and negligent infliction claims are mutually exclusive, so if both are claimed, the jury must be told the defendant can be found liable on only one. Connecticut Civil Jury Instructions 3.12-1, Notes (revised to March 24, 2025)
- Bystander rule, for example in Connecticut: a bystander may recover for distress from seeing someone else negligently injured only if the bystander is closely related to the victim, perceived the event as it happened or arrived soon after and before the victim's condition or location substantially changed, the victim died or was seriously injured, and the bystander suffered serious distress, severe enough to warrant a psychiatric diagnosis or to substantially impair the ability to cope with daily life. Connecticut Civil Jury Instructions 3.12-3, Bystander Emotional Distress (new December 7, 2015)
- Emotional distress as injury-case damages, for example in Connecticut: noneconomic damages in a personal injury case cover physical pain and suffering, mental and emotional pain and suffering, and loss of the ability to enjoy life's pleasures, and a plaintiff injured by negligence may be compensated for mental suffering in the same manner as physical suffering. Connecticut Civil Jury Instructions 3.4-1, Damages - General (revised to March 24, 2025)
- For example, in Hawaii, general damages compensate for past, present, and reasonably probable future disability, pain, and emotional distress caused by the injuries, and emotional distress "includes mental worry, anxiety, anguish, suffering, and grief, where they are shown to exist." Hawai'i Civil Jury Instructions 8.3, General Damages Defined, and 8.5, Emotional Distress Defined
- In Hawaii, a plaintiff does not have to present evidence of the dollar value of pain or emotional distress; the plaintiff must prove the nature, extent, and effect of the injury, pain, and emotional distress, and the jury sets the amount using its own judgment, common sense, and experience. Hawai'i Civil Jury Instructions 8.10, Pain and Suffering
- In Hawaii, the items of personal injury damages a jury considers include the pain, emotional suffering, and disability the plaintiff has suffered and is reasonably probable to suffer in the future because of the injuries. Hawai'i Civil Jury Instructions 8.9, Elements of Damages
FAQ
What counts as "extreme and outrageous" conduct?
It varies by state. Connecticut's instructions describe conduct so outrageous and extreme that it goes beyond all possible bounds of decency; insults, bad manners, or hurt feelings are not enough.
Can I sue for emotional distress without a physical injury?
In some states. For example, Connecticut's instruction on intentional infliction of emotional distress requires severe distress, not a physical injury, and its negligent infliction instruction requires distress of a kind that might result in illness or bodily harm.
Can I sue for distress from watching a family member get hurt?
In some states, under bystander rules. For example, in Connecticut you must be closely related to the victim, perceive the event or arrive soon after, the victim must die or be seriously injured, and your distress must be serious.
Do I need a doctor to prove emotional distress?
Not necessarily. For example, Connecticut juries may consider whether the plaintiff sought medical or psychological treatment as one factor in judging severity, and Hawaii's instructions say the plaintiff need not prove the dollar value of emotional distress.
Can emotional distress be part of a car accident or injury claim?
Yes, in many states. For example, Connecticut's and Hawaii's instructions list mental and emotional suffering as part of personal injury damages.
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